In the ever-growing industry of healing work with horses, there are many different interpretations as to what Facilitated Equine Emotional Learning (FEEL™), involves. In HorseJourneys, it is about having the horse lead you to where you need to feel next. As Barbara Rector, director of Adventures In Awareness says, "It is learning to see through the lens of the heart."
FEEL™ is about connecting to your more real and truer self - becoming congruent. It is the deep emotional and spiritual alignment with the physical where one can begin to transform the heart.
This work mostly occurs on the ground in a round pen, I like to call - the Reflective Circle. The work can also be in the saddle with a lead, or in the saddle at liberty. Facilitation of this work involves first educating clients and students how to utilize emotional strength building practices and exercises for connecting with their sensory body wisdom.
The work then transitions to the client or student entering the Reflective Circle with the horse they have chosen or who has chosen them. Upon entering, they may set an intention for clarity on a personal issue, a life focus question, or just enter with an open heart to what comes from the interaction. Horses communicate through their behavior, body language, or telepathic communication.
Our job is to be that bridge for what the horses convey through their body movements and gestures and help interpret any communications the client may receive. Basically, it is learning to interpret "horse-speak." It is horse whispering for a different purpose. Being a FEEL™ facilitator, I see our role as one of holding a safe containership for the client and the horse to meet in the heart, which may require no interpretation whatsoever.
As a facilitator, this work does require having a clear and strong heart, as well as, knowing the many ways horses can reflect to humans. It is also vital to know the places and spaces horses can take people and how humans can integrate the insights readily available from these magnificent, sentient beings. Horses don't distinguish between the student or facilitator, so it is essential for the facilitator to be grounded, safe, and emotionally clear.
Horses are masters of knowing the emotional awareness and content in each person often before the person is even aware themselves. Humans are masters at hiding their emotional Feeling states. In spending time in an FEEL™ session, people can begin to connect to healthy emotional patterns and disconnect from unhealthy emotional patterns because of the clear, non-judgmental, and instantaneous reflective behavior horses provide.
In the Reflective Circle work, one can learn to connect to the natural rhythms of their bodies and the informative messages behind each of their feelings or physical sensation. Clients learn to slow down and in that slowing be able to listen to the unlimited information stored within their own bodies.
It is in the being with a benevolent 1,000 pound animal, who communicates clearly and honestly what they feel, know and sense, that models for us how to break the constraints and restrictions of a lifetime's worth of disconnection from our emotional and sensory wisdom. In doing this work, there is a freedom and a return to one's creativity and passion that has often been imprisoned, becoming newly available.
Horses never lie. We can trust them, and in that trust we learn to disengage from the practices of denying, withholding, or lying to ourselves and to others. We can come to a solid place within our selves that says, "I don't have to pretend anymore. And, I don't have to be with anyone who relates in ways that are inauthentic either." Horses wouldn't settle for such behavior.
Why then do we? Haven't you been lied to enough? Aren't you exhausted with pretending to feel a certain way when you don't? And, aren't you tired of ignoring the signals from your body, only to be pursued by greater symptoms of pain or discomfort? It is a powerful person who can change limiting behaviors. Your body never lies to a horse, even if your words are saying another thing altogether, which makes for a powerful emotional learning environment.
There's magic that comes when a horse "reads" you in such a way. It is as if the fourth chamber of your heart has permission to open for the first time and is seen, known and heard. Even with all its unattractive content of pain, sorrow, shame and hurt, you are seen through compassionate eyes. You fall into love in those moments.
Horses mirror our present state of feeling and being, even the not so pretty sides of our selves. They also affirm our strengths and talents. Each session with the horses can reinforce your connection to the person you most long to be. When we have the experience of being loved over and over again within the horse's presence, they can usher us into a connection with authentic feeling and being unlike we've ever known. With practice, it becomes easier and easier to hold these states of consciousness within all our interactions. We learn through the experience of being loved.
Sometimes we need an outsider to love our ugly parts first. In that non-judgmental love, we discover it is okay to forgive and let go. Horses provide the direct experience of acceptance for what is. Horses also do not accept you being any old way with them, either. They will listen to what you have to say about that anger, but "acting out" that anger around them poses a threat. Emotions are contagious. And for highly feeling beings, horses will pick up on that which you are feeling, whether you are aware of those feelings, have control over them or express them responsibly, or not.
This is the wide gap we need to bridge within ourselves and in all our relationships - learning how to responsibly express our emotions instead of irresponsibly acting them out. Karla McLaren, author of Emotional Genius calls this having "emotional agility," the ability to receive the messages behind one's emotions, make appropriate adjustments in behavior, release the charge of the emotion, thus returning to inner peace and balance. This practice is key to our personal success. Horses are our willing teachers.
Also, it is my deepest conviction that as facilitators of such deep emotional stirring and development work, it is essential we are schooled, embodying, and able to provide our clients and students with the appropriate tools and practices of emotional strength building, responsible releasing practices, and guides for how to communicate the very intricate - language of the heart.